Getting more nervous! ( 1st December)

Assalamualaikum...

By AidanZ

3 more days to go till the wedding... and what do you do?

Some of my friends suggest to practice the aqad recitation. Don't embarrass yourself, they said.
While some... well... most of them actually, just happy to tease me about the magical ----- (you know what i mean)

One of my friend recently sat with me and tell me at length about how to treat a wife. Mostly you just have to be firm, Z, he told me. Give appreciation whenever it's due but don't ever hesitate to give reprimand, also whenever it's due.

Another of my friend tipped me to clarify things (all the do's and dont's) from the very beginning. Clarify all the expectations! Don't wait after a few months or by then it might be too late to change things back to where they were supposed to be. Excellent tip, i thought

While another advice came in the form of  'wait and see' kind of approach. Everybody's different, said my friend. Make sure first what kind approach suits best for your wife and then act upon it. You're good at reading people. Should have no problem with that!

Because i was considered a little bit late to be married, maybe i kinda 'lucky' because i have so many friends that just ready to share their marriage wisdoms with me, and i'm really thankful for that. If only it can make me less nervous...

Huuuu, the waiting... agonizing yet exciting...


AidanZ

It's Not The End Yet (28 Nov 2009)

Assalamualaikum...

By AidanZ

Okay, i don't know what has gotten into me, but out of nowhere, i feel like i have to write something in here. Anything...
To be honest, my real last post (by real AidanZ) was way back in Feb, when i did review about "Geng: Pengembaraan Bermula", which you can count yourself, almost 9 1/2 month ago! Somebody can get pregnant and deliver her baby during that period! Phew! During which i also lost about... let say... all my blogging friends... that was quiet many at the time. Hmm, pity...

Although this blog wasn't entirely go dormant, thanks to Mullah and lately, Mas from Australia (who contribute the last 3,4 posts before this one), i for one can say, this blog has never been the same since...

I've been thinking a lot about this blog lately, and of course the most logical thing to do is to resurrect it...
The fact that i can write about almost anything again makes me feel excited. But if truth be told, I was excited before... and I still 'neglect' it for more than 3/4 year! And as if it's not enough, i'm getting married in 1 week period (on 4th December 2009), and obviously, i'll be more unavailable than ever!!

So my friends, for those who still sometimes come and visit this blog; If you didnt see any new entry from me (from now on, i'll put By AidanZ each time i write), please leave a message and remind me about my vow just now, will ya? Maybe i just need a reminder that i can still do this, no matter what. Hmm, I don't know what will happen in the future, but i sense... i will be very... very... very... glad and grateful if i can nail this! Hehe, call me 'cold feet', panic or whatever, i really mean it!


And lastly, wish me luck as i enter a new phase of my life as a married man on the said date...
Please pray for my happiness and most imporantly, to have a blessing and rahmat from ALLAH...!!


Thank You,


Your nervous... yet excited friend,
AidanZ

28th November 2009

Shark of Life

My friend, Ms USA send me this story to think about...

The Japanese have always loved fresh fish. But the waters close to Japan have not held many fish for decades.

So to feed the Japanese population, fishing boats got bigger and went farther than ever. The farther the fishermen went, the longer it took to bring in the fish. If the return trip took more than a few days, the fish were not fresh. The Japanese did not like the taste.

To solve this problem, fishing companies installed freezers on their boats. They would catch the fish and freeze them at sea. Freezers allowed the boats to go farther and stay longer. However, the Japanese could taste the difference between fresh and frozen and they did not like frozen fish. The frozen fish brought a lower price.

So fishing companies installed fish tanks. They would catch the fish and stuff them in the tanks. After a little thrashing around, the fish stopped moving. They were tired and dull, but alive. Unfortunately, the Japanese could still taste the difference. Because the fish did not move for days, they lost their fresh-fish taste.

The Japanese preferred the lively taste of fresh fish, not sluggish fish. So how did Japanese fishing companies solve this problem? How do they get fresh-tasting fish to Japan ? If you were consulting the fish industry, what would you recommend?

How Japanese Fish Stay Fresh: To keep the fish tasting fresh, the Japanese fishing companies still put the fish in the tanks. But now they add a small shark to each tank. The shark eats a few fish, but most of the fish arrive in a very lively state. The fish are challenged.

Have you realized that some of us are also living in a pond but most of the time tired & dull, so we need a Shark in our life to keep us awake and moving?

Basically in our lives Sharks are new challenges to keep us active and taste better...The more intelligent, persistent and competent you are, the more you enjoy a challenge.

If your challenges are the correct size, and if you are steadily conquering those challenges, you are Conqueror...

You think of your challenges and get energized. You are excited to try new solutions. You have fun. You are alive!

Lessons of the story:

1. Instead of avoiding challenges, jump into them. Beat the heck out of them. Enjoy the game. If your challenges are too large or too numerous, do not give up. Failing makes you tired. Instead, reorganize. Find more determination, more knowledge, more help.

2. God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but he did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears and light for the way.

3. Disappointments are like road bumps, they slow you down a bit but you enjoy the smooth road afterwards...Don't stay on the bumps too long. Move on!

4. When you feel down because you didn't get what you want, just sit tight and be happy, because God has thought of something better to give you. When something happens to you, good or bad, consider what it means. There's a purpose to life's events, to teach you how to laugh more or not to cry too hard.

5. No one can go back and make a brand new start. But anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. So, Show me the SHARK!

Nursery Survey

I received a call from Pendekar Kucing (a friend of mine) today. He told me a about an insident that happened to one of our friend, his baby (2 1/2 month) now is in the ICU because of bleeding in the brain. This happens just after 2 weeks he sent his baby to a nursery. When i heard this stuff i feel so sad, and i believe all mothers will be feeling the same. So, i would like to do a survey, if you have heard or experience any accident involving nursery in our country, please share with me. Maybe with these stories we can do something to improve our Childcare services.

Thank you.

Alhamdullilah...

15 Oct 2009

Hi it's me again. Last time i did mention about my friend who is in labour (delivering baby). Alhamdullilah, she got a baby boy at 13th October, 8.23pm. She is a very strong woman. She's in labour for 31 hours. This make me so grateful (Alhamdullilah), because i was in labour for only about 4-6 hours. All the man should be thankful for this, they do not have to feel the pain at all.

Just a summary of what Mothers will be feeling, from start of the pregnancy until the delivering part.

1- For the first 3 months, mother will be extra careful, for the baby safety and extra manja with the husband ;)
2- For the second trimester (3-6 monts of pregnancy), parents will be discussing about the baby's gender, most of the mothers want a girl, and father want a boy, but at last, parents will say, it's ok, as long as the baby is healthy.
3- For the third trimester (7-9 months) esspecially on the 9th month, mother, will be feeling, the pregnancy is already too long and very eager to deliver the baby.
4- During the labour, em, i can't explain that, but the husband need to be very2 patient and be extra supportive to the wife, because she's realy having a tough time.
5-After, the delivery, parents will be so happy with the newbord. But, the mother will say, no more baby. This is the only time i am going to get pregnant, and this feeling will last for about 6 months and maybe can last for years. (This is what they called labour trauma).
6- Finally, your life will not be the same again with the little one. So, for those couples who are still single, or will be getting marry soon, just enjoy your married life before planning to have a baby. Try to know your partner better, as it is very important in buiding a family.

Today..

Today..

Salam and hi, i am Mizan's mother, Mr. moderator gave me the permission to write in this blog (thank you). So, today is my first entry and also my birthday. I just want to make today more memorable ;).

I just send my son to the baby sitter, and go to the antenatal clinic with my friend. Her due date (to deliver her baby) is today. (So, 3 things are happening today he..he..). Today make me relize how independent i am, i need to handle a baby and a pregnant lady and do my research study all in one time.

Yeah, when you are getting older, you can't depend to anyone else, you have to learn to do by yourself. Actually, in the past, i am a spoil doughter (since i am the only girl in my family), i always need to ask my mum whenever i want to do anything.  But now, i am a mother, i can't do that anymore..he..he..

Change to other topic now, I just want to wish congratulations to Bagan Pinang voters who had make their choice..and, do not forget to ask the Winner to fullfill their promises. If they did not, use your right and don't afraid to complaint.

Ok, i'll continue other time, as i need to time my friend's contraction...;) bye.

Why I did'n join the Demo.....

By Mullah

Last Saturday, 1 August 2009, I have a 'kenduri arwah' at my house, Subang Jaya. Coincidentally, the date is same with 'Himpunan Mansuh ISA' at Kuala Lumpur. And because of this, I will write my opinion on that matter

Personally, I think that 'Himpunan Mansuh ISA' should not be allowed or permitted in Kuala Lumpur. First, the 'victims' are the petty traders especially the local traders that hope to see their sales rise on Saturday and Sunday. I know that some of you will disagree with me because of this matter but if you were the traders that 'cari makan' there from 7 am - 9 pm, you will understand what business all about. 'Himpunan Mansuh ISA' is not like BERSIH demonstration, that unite all the people in order to seek a clean election and electoral list. Besides that, the BERSIH demonstration is planned ahead of time, if I'm not mistaken, months before the target date. If I were the organizer of 'Himpunan Mansuh ISA', I will organize the demonstration inside the stadium, as the Selangor's Pakatan Rakyat did in Stadium Melawati. Not that I did not support the movement's aspiration, but I think the Government should talk with all interested parties including GMI and Pakatan Rakyat on how to improvise the ISA, that still relevant to our national security. Besides of having 60 0r 90 days detention without trial, the related parties could discuss on how to contain the terrorist or 'threats to national security' in relevant and humane ways.
I know that there are many people support or did not support the ISA. For instance, Datuk Seri Anwar Ibrahim supported the Operasi Lalang during his years with the Government but withdraw his support when he's with Pakatan Rakyat. If we compare to other countries, United States, United Kingdom, Singapore and Israel have security laws that almost similar to us and receive many criticism on their security laws.Hhmmm............ there are many views on this matter... So, how you readers think about this????.......

29052009:Friday Prayer-1245 pm!!

By Mullah

     Alhamdulillah, I could write again after a busy day today. To my dear readers, there is an     interesting story to relate and to think about for this week  

   On Friday, 29052009, I went to OGA exhibition at Kuala Lumpur Convention Center (KLCC) at Kuala Lumpur. So, after a 30 minute going around the exhibition booths inside the KLCC, I went to have lunch at KFC KLCC with my staffs. And after the brief lunch, I went to Masjid Syakirin, KLCC to perform the Friday Prayer.

  As I performed the Tahiyatul Masjid Prayer, I heard some body said 'Assalamualaykum' over the microphone. So, the jamaah answered the greetings back. Suddenly, the Arab speaker gave azan. 'Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar'...... And the jamaah got startled from their iktikaf and some jamaah got confused. But the Arab speaker just went on with the azan......

  Until, the wordings 'Hayya 'Alal Falah', the Arab speaker was stopped and one Abang comforted the Arab person from his doings. The Arab speaker speak back. 'In my country, we perform Friday Prayer at this time'. The Abang said back ' Well, that is in your country. In Malaysia, we perform the Friday Prayer when the Zuhur time comes'. So, my dear readers, who is right and who is wrong???....This interesting story could be related to what Ustaz Zaharuddin wrote in his blog at http://www.zaharuddin.net/content/view/836/72/

  To make the story short, majority of ulamaks opined that the Friday Prayer should be performed after the Zuhur time comes and based on 'hadith-hadith shahih'. But, some ulamaks belief that Friday Prayer could be performed after 'matahari gelincir', also based on 'hadith-hadith shahih'. So, there is no need to debate who is right and who is wrong in this matter. Besides that, We, as Muslims, should open our minds and brains while holding Islamic principle to the core. There are many things to do in little time.... See you...........

  

Just Another....

By Mullah
Last night, I went to nearby masjid to perform Isyak prayer. When I arrived inside the masjid, there was a ceramah agama, given by a local Ustaz

So, while waiting for the Isyak prayer, I listened carefully to the ceramah and the topic was about nafsu. This Ustaz, was reading the 'kitab kuning' in front of 30-40 jamaahs and as you and I know, some of the jamaah members were really 'khusyuk' until fallen asleep. I didn't knew why they were falling asleep. Was it because of the monotone of the ceramah or the ineffectiveness of the Ustaz to dakwah the jamaah or the physical limitations of the jamaah themselves?? But dear readers, this is not the main point of why I'm writing this article

The main point is when the Ustaz says from the 'kitab kuning' about the Ulamak that didn't remember names of his wife, children and his students ALL THE TIME. Why?? Good question.. The Ustaz explained that the Ulamak was so zuhud and his Heart is tied (ingat) only to ALLAH. Not like us that remembers friends' names, parets' names and so on And that triggers me to think during the ceramah.

As we all know that the ONLY person who is 'paling zuhud', 'paling beriman', 'tok guru segala tok guru', 'paling alim' among us (makhluk) and 'Kekasih ALLAH' is Nabi Muhammad SAW. And as we all read, discuss and think, Nabi Muhammad SAW remembers his wive's names (Siti Khadijah, Aisyah), his daughters' names (Fatimah) and his Companions (Abu Bakar, Umar, Ali) and as we all know that we are umat Nabi Muhammad SAW. So, I ask you, dear readers, whom to follow??? And the answer is Nabi Muhammad SAW. So, how this Ustaz can says that this Ulamak is special and his Heart is so pure that he only remembers ALLAH ALL THE TIME and did not remembers other names, while Nabi Muhammad SAW, 'Kekasih ALLAH', remembers his wives' names, his daughters' names and Companions' names???

Hhmm.... It is very hard to find a good, qualified and modernized Ustaz in Manjung, Perak. A Good Ustaz can give dakwah EFFECTIVELY, cater to YOUNG MINDS while not neglecting the VETERANS' ATTENTION. A Good Ustaz that can PROFESSIONALIZE the ULAMAKs and 'ULAMAK'size the PROFESSIONALS. Until we can produce and educate these so Good Ustaz, then there Just Another visit to Masjid........... See you...........

The Day That Federer Cried

By Mullah
Alhamdulillah...Alhamdulillah...Alhamdulillah...

Yesterday, Sunday, 07062009, the World witnessed 2 Histories in the making. One was when Federer became the 6th person to achieve Career Grand Slam at French Open 2009, after Andre Agassi did it in 1999 at the same venue; French Open 1999. Secondly, Federer tied with Pete Sampras' record of 14 Grand Slam, earlier than Pete did it and we, the supporters, think about it. But then, History is History

Yesterday was the day Federer cried after defeated Robin Soderling, a new, arising Giants-killer in Tennis World, in 3 consecutive sets: 6-1, 7-6(1) and 6-4. He landed both his knees to the clayground, the same ground that saw Federer became Runner-up from 2006-2008 and now, the same ground that saw Federer completed his quest to become 'the best tennis player in history'. Soderling said it and we, the viewers, already knew it.

Hhhmm..... so what is after French Open 2009???. My plan is to finish reading 'The Undercover Economist','The Night Train to Lisbon'n and to assist my Company to get the Integrated Management System (IMS) this year.. Hhhm.... after that.. let's see when the Wimbledon 2009 starts....